First things first many apologies for the lack of posts
recently, Kira is abroad and I have been battling a horrendous cold for the
last few days, making it virtually impossible to do anything else other than
eat ice cream. But I'm back (sort of) so bear with me while I try to string two
sentences together. While I was moaning on the couch this morning I came across
a really interesting essay by a writer named Jennifer Pastiloff, titled
"Don't Judge Your Pain. Or Anyone Else's". The essay centered on her
broken foot and inability to do anything other than sit for a protracted amount
of time. During this unasked for "down time" she had a few epiphanies
(I won't spoil them for you) but they had everything to do with allowing
herself to feel vulnerable and grateful. There were people in her life that
came through for her without her needing to ask, and there were some who deeply
disappointed her. Sound familiar? Even though the impetus for the essay was her
broken foot, I bet a lot of us could have written something very similar with
regard to our own pregnancy loss experiences. Owning our pain and allowing
ourselves to feel vulnerable, accepting help, understanding that some people
(for whatever reason) are unable to be there for us in a way we feel is
deserved and necessary, how kindness matters, are all lessons most of us are
learning during our own miscarriage healing process. It is a wonderfully honest
and remarkable read, not only because I see myself in her, but it is a brilliant
reminder of the kind of person I hope to be not only to myself but those around
me.
Please let me know what you think and I hope you find it as inspiring as I did.
- Jennifer
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